there is nothing so unattractive to a man as strident feminism

Did you know that it wasn't that long ago that when women were raped, their underwear and dress were considered viable evidence to use to prove that they were 'asking for it'? Because if you put on a thong or silky panties, you automatically open your legs to any and every man you might encounter. Of course, they don't do this anymore, but what does that say about our society?

Speaking as a woman, this is outrageous. Completely and totally. But it speaks to the dichotomy that is present in many depictions of women. You're either the madonna or the whore. Men want both, need both, but don't want to see both qualities in the same woman. A man will meet a permissive woman in a bar, have amazing sex with her, and never call her again, cause she's a whore. You don't make long term plans with whores, you don't introduce them to your parents, and you don't go out on dates with them. Really, I say that man is just an asshole, but maybe that makes me the whore.

Really, which would you rather have? A woman who freely admits to having sex with people she dosen't love, but is safe about it and knows what she wants or a woman who has only had sex with people she loves, just in the missionary position with the lights out, and she didnt' really enjoy it too much? You can't have it all.

I'm so sick of feeling guilty about sex. Why does our society make it feel so dirty? I have had sex. Yes. With people I didn't love. Yes, I have made mistakes, but those are mine. I don't need your judgement over coffee anymore than I need your judgement in ten trillion repeated arguments that are ostensibly about video games and movies and plans and parties, but at the root are all about me and my whoredom. Trust me, the judgement I deal to myself late at night when I should be asleep is much harsher and much more personal than anything you could ever say or do. I enjoy having sex, and I don't feel bad for it. If that makes me a whore, then so be it.